On Tornados, Cookies, and Thieves

I live in Oklahoma. For those who know the great state of Oklahoma, we are known to have a lot of severe storms and frequent tornadoes in the springtime. That is actually one of the reasons I moved back; the weather in southern Texas was too mundane, I needed the bipolar nature of Oklahoma's weather to bring some excitement to my life. That being said, this season is opening up to be as expected. Great weather, then sudden storms then tornado watches & warnings. Last night was no exception. We had threat of severe storms with possible tornadoes, so I decided to stay up until the threat passed in the event I had to move the kids to shelter quickly. So, while I was waiting for the storms, I decided to fulfill my promise of baking cookies for my kids. ...145 cookies later, we did not have a drop of rain. The wind had slightly increased. The "tornado watch" window had expired. I went to bed. 

 Fast forward to this morning. I woke up to hearing the wind howling and thunder and rain. I was not surprised, because this was expected; the weather man had forecast rain in the morning for today. Then my phone buzzed, text message coming in. I ignored it, because I normally get "Good Morning" texts from my friends when they wake up. But the texts did not stop. So I picked up my phone, and lo and behold.....there was a tornado coming to my area. It had come frighteningly close to some of my friends. Another friend called me to makes sure I was awake. It happened so suddenly, so unexpectedly. So how do thieves fit in? Did I, or someone I know get robbed during this tumultuous time? No. This experience brought a sudden and unnerving awareness of what Paul meant when he wrote 1 Thessalonians 5:2: "For you yourselves know that the day of the Lord so comes as a thief in the night". Sometimes, we are made aware of thieves in the area. We have news broadcasts, neighborhood watches, etc. We are given advice on how to protect ourselves, and our homes. No one ever knows when a thief will come. My friends and I knew the storms were coming. We talked abut it. We had prepared.  But we were asleep when happened. Then the storm came like a thief. Suddenly. Unexpectedly. And I was asleep. If it weren't for my friends, I would have not known that there was any danger; but more importantly, if I had chosen to ignore the messages (like I normally do, until I am ready to deal with it) I could have found myself in a world of hurt. 

 Praise God, we were all safe. The tornado passed, and did not affect me at all. So all this to say: Don't Ignore the Messages. 

Reflections on the Christian Walk

It has literally been years since I have written on this blog. I had forgoten I had it. And yet, it still stands. I have been reading the book of Thessalonians, and I find myself struggling with the concept of "The Christian walk, or the Christian way". What does it mean? What I have seen a lot is the concept of "love, and love without reservation". "Love without judgement". "Acceptance". I have seen nothing of "Standards". Do Christians have standards? What are standards? So, according to the dictionary (dictionary.com :) ) standards are defined as "Those morals, ethics, habits, etc., established by authority, custom, or an individual as acceptable." I belive we are supposed to. So, follow my thought process here: - Christians are identified as followers of Christ. - We belive that the Bible is the Word of God, and all in it is devine inspiration from God to man. - The Bible shows us how to live; it is the letter from God to Man expressing His loving character to all. So, The authority of Christ followers is God, and He has outlined His standards for His followers in His word. Now, lets focus on the New Testament. Is this also devine inspiriation? Are these words still instructions? Do the words after the book of John REALLY matter? Are they inspired words to show us how to conduct ourselves as Christians, or were they only for specific churches at specific times and no longer apply to us? This is my struggle. I belive in the absolute authority of the Bible as the Word of God. I belive that as a believer in Christ and a follower of His way, His message did not stop at the cross. If it did, there was no need for Paul to write letters. There was no need for anyone to write anything else, because it would have concluded at the death of Christ, and all our sins were washed away, and all we would have to do would be accept Christ and then pray the Holy Spirit work in us. The messages didn't stop at the cross though. God continued to inspire men to write; I believe those writings are to help refine us. Otherwise, the rest of the New Testament after John 21:25 would not be needed. In reflecting on the mainstream "Christian Walk", I find a lot of people stopping at the end of John, and applying the words beyond that to specific people at specific times but not the Christians now because all we need is to "Love" and "Let the Holy Spirit deal with everything else". Why was this not sufficient for the Christians after the book of John? Why did there need to be subsequent writings? In my mind, the relationship with Christ is a personal thing; but the walk is to be done in community. I think, in every Christian's walk, they pass through moments where they may behave or struggle with behaviors or ideologies or concepts that are adressed within the New Testament, and we are to support, encourage, guide, admonish and help each other through the journey. I believe that Christians shold not stop at "love", but START there. Only in Love can we move forward as instructed in the books beyond John. Only in Love can we have strong families, strong churches, and strong communities. Only in Love can we sharpen our brothers and sisters in Christ, and help each other refine our characters. Loving man is not the end goal of the Christian Walk. It's just the beginning.

Christian Advice.....

Something has been bothering me as of recent. Due to the many conversations I have had with various friends regarding marriage, I've had a lot of things to think about and now I realize my confusion/complications comes in when I do not know what advice to give them. I guess my main problem is with divorce. I know some people say that "there is no grounds for divorce except for under biblical standards". Such standards are then classified as adultery. And that is it. There is no other reason that is "biblical ". At one point in my life (it could've been my wedding…) I heard that a man is supposed to love his wife the way Christ loves the church; marriage is supposed to reflect Christ's love for the church. I have heard the comments about being "unequally yoked", and I also know the verse about the unbeliever being married to the believer, and if the unbeliever doesn't want to leave and wants to stay married then they should stay married and they will be blessed (I guess I always viewed that as “if they respected and loved each other, there’s no reason they should be encouraged to separate.” My opinion…). But here's my problem: what if two professed believers get married, and then one or both change, and start to live a life or exhibit behaviors that are no longer in any way shape or form in alignment with Christ? What if that marriage goes from being an example of Christ love for the church to an example of "Sodom & Gomorrah"? What if the party that has walked away from Christ is choosing not to repent of their sins, they don't see any problem with the way they are living, and in turn start to ridicule the other for their continue walk with Christ? What if there are children involved in this? At what point is it then the Christian obligation? Duty? Right? To say enough is enough, this sin cannot be abided, and walk away? … Can the Christian rightfully walk away? How is it possible to despise the sin of disrespect of fellow man, and yet when a marriage partner: - makes lewd and disrespectful comments or gestures to the partner then laughs and say that's just the way men/women are - refuses to acknowledge they are hurting their partner - mocks them in front of the children - acts out (or demands to act out) fantasies that the other party finds repulsive under the blanket of “everything is acceptable in the marriage bed“ or “because you married me, even though you are uncomfortable you “need“ to do this/that because you are my spouse and it will make me happy” - Uses the marriage commitment as a weapon (“you’re never going to get rid of me”, “I will destroy you (reputation or financially, etc) if you try to leave”) encourage the offended partner to stay with them? Have we inadvertently created a double standard in our own Christian lives where sin is not acceptable or tolerable, except if it's with the spouse; then covered it with “marriage is private” so we don’t have to mess with the marriages that are a mess, and have to hold our fellow brothers and sisters accountable? I know I am in no place to judge others; we do not know the heart of man only God does. But when "man" (speaking of men and women) chooses (by their words and then actions) to walk away from the Lord, and they do not wish to reflect on their behavior and repent of it (because “they see nothing wrong with it, they just need to be accepted as they are…and you married them so now you just have to live with it“), what advice can I give them as a Christian? I feel that “pray about it” has become a cop out; for some people I’ve talked to, a natural death (for their partner) seems too far away, and suicide is not an option for them because they don’t want to leave their children to be raised by the offending partner. I guess I feel the cloak of “the irrevocable decision” has been placed upon marriage . Once you get married you are blessed or doomed for life; the fact that we are all sinners and we make mistakes is no longer applicable because marriage is "the end". *Note: I do not believe in “irreconcilable differences” as a reason for divorce. Also, I don’t believe “hurt feelings” are a reason to give up either. I guess I speak of a degrading of the partner as a human; they have become “objects”, or “possessions acquired due to matrimony”.

"I want to check you for....."

"Blood sucking parasites that hurt and leave you itching and paranoid about things like contracting a horrible disease or other bugs crawling all over you and getting into places where they shouldn't belong". Isn't that how the song goes? No? After the weekend camping with my darling Pathfinders and Adventurers, I have decided Brad Paisley is an idiot. I don't know if he has spent time checking anyone for ticks; I cant imagine it being a really titillating experience for either party. Especially if you find one. (shudder) It is a really horrible experience. Then, after the removal, comes the itching.... I guess by now my current conflict has become apparent. I HATE TICKS. I love nature...but this is ridiculous. This year the tick season was supposed to be bad. This is beyond bad. It seems like everyone in my family (including animals, excluding fish) has had to endure the wrath of the bloodsuckers. Today, my son acquired one mowing the lawn. I acquired one spraying around the house for bugs. I think I have had enough. There will be no more "time in nature" for this girl, unless it's at the beach. I am through with ticks. I don't even like the Superhero, "The Tick". and I love superheroes. ....Actually....I really just like Thor. But not the comic book Thor....;)

I just realized....

....I have no idea what I'm doing. I've been homeschooling for a school term now. My first year, My son, 3rd/4th grade curriculum. I did the research. Checked out different methods. Joined a homeschool group. Created a schedule. Planned out a curriculum. ...and feel like I accomplished nothing this year. We've done field trips, read lots of books, watched movies that were available for the subjects studying, got involved in a science co-op.... When asked what my son learned this year so far, he stated..."nothing". Boy. I've failed. I was really excited about next year a few weeks ago. I found a new curriculum that was pretty much straight classical education. I found a fabulous math program, a really fun looking spelling program, and I love our current history and science programs. I will be embarking upon pre-k next year, and that's pretty intimidating...... "sigh". I dont know if I can do it. Education is so very important to me. I truly enjoy learning. My parents didn't homeschool; we were just expected to make straight A's. I really dont remember them helping me with my schoolwork. Socially, school was hard; I didnt have many friends. When my son started having problems, homeschooling seemed the best option. I could spend time helping him with what he didnt understand. I placed him in an environment where he would be accepted as himself; no need to "try to be like anyone else". He got the opportunity to do lots of extra stuff to help him understand, and he got to meet some pretty awesome kids like himself. But he learned "nothing" this year. To be honest, we struggled all year with the reality that Mommy expects him to do his best - all the time. Sloppy work is not okay. We struggled with the need for him to pay attention....apparently I have not expected that from him before. We struggled with his inability to follow instructions - strangely enough, he seems to have embraced the "if its not comfortable for you, dont do it" mentality at an early age. And I have learned I know nothing about how to encourage children. So where do I go from here? I LOVE homeschooling. I am learning....and I love it. I am sharing a bit of what I love about learning...and he dosent seem to care. Next year, I will have both children to try to teach.....

My thoughts on Gay marriage

Normally I have very little to say about anything. But I am hard pressed not to say anything about this. Some would equate the right for gay marriage as the same as the right to interracial marriages. However, I think that they are not the same. At all. Our country, despite its current state, was founded on Biblical principles, and although we as a country have not always sided on the side of Biblical correctness, I believe we have a lot of people up there who still believe in the power of the Almighty and his wrath. I would like to point out that the Bible never spoke out against the color of a man as a reason for not marrying him, but rather his culture or his beliefs. Therefore, in my opinion, the decision that interracial relationships between a man and woman are valid is a Biblical and morally sound decision. Is it a decision the government needed to make? As a Bible believing, God fearing woman, I don’t think so. On the flip side, the Bible does have a lot to say about homosexual relationships, and none of them are positive. I think the real question is: should the government be expected to tell us what is truth, morally right, therefore acceptable?? Overall, I feel the government has no real business deciding who can and cannot get married. They are (as far as I am understanding) supposed to create and uphold laws of the land. Because of that, I feel the decision to marry or not to marry homosexuals should be left to the churches, and the governments should issue “binding contracts of care”, or whatever they want to call it, available to those who choose not to (or who can’t) get married in a church. Once the contract is signed, the individual parties can have all the legal implications of “marriage”; the religious & moral aspects of it can be left up to the churches, societies, cultures, whatever. I don’t think this contract needs to be issued for those who are able to or choose to get married in churches, because for those of us who are married, once you sign the marriage certificate, the “contract” is therefore “legal and binding”! I may be a bit under-informed, but it seems like the battle for gay people to be married started because they were being denied the legal rights that heterosexual people who got married received. The "right" for the marriage to be "accepted" is a social and personal issue, and one the governments cant force. Let the government deal with it on the legal end. Let the churches deal with it on the religious end. And let the people decide what is right for them.

The power of words: Stupid

So, I'm taking a little break from packing. In this break I'm reading more of a book I've been reading for a while. As I have been reading it, at different spots of the authors (in my opinion) opinions, I find myself thinking "this is stupid!!"
Then I realized, "Stupid" is a very powerful word. It can bring thoughts, ideas, and dreams to ashes. (But not opinions. Opinions are pretty resilient...) But then I realize, it usually is used when something is found to be intimidating or when the subject matter (right or wrong) is not wanted as acceptable. It's an easy word to use, instead of delving deeper into the truth of the matter behind our emotional responses to stimuli. It's easier to say something is "stupid' instead of trying to find out why it offends me.
I think, for a week, I'm not going to use the word "stupid" as a descriptor.

Except for when I'm speaking about my husband's smart phone.